Back in the 80s and part of the early 90s, I worked as a mobile DJ for my brother’s company. I can’t even begin to tell you how many weddings I’ve DJ-ed, or how many times I played “Here and Now” by Luther Vandross as a couple’s “first dance,” “My Girl” for the daddy-daughter dance, “The Stripper” by David Rose for the garter toss, and “Celebration” by Kool and the Gang to get everyone from grandpa to that new mother who danced with her baby by bouncing the kid in her arms out on the dance floor. And yes, every bridal couple thought the mix of music chosen was unlike the music played at any other reception ever done in the history of wedding receptions.
Good times…gooooooood time, kids.
Okay, cynical-bitter-burned out mode is now off.
While it’s pretty clear that wedding receptions can feel very forced when it comes to squeezing out emotions out of tired, but true songs. A song that reminds you of your hubby, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, son, daughter, crush, infatuation, etc., can have a pretty lasting impact. There are certain songs that I’ll hear (and they won’t even be romantic) that remind me of J when we first started going out (New Order, The Cure, English Beat, D. D. Smash and a few others). There are songs that remind me of Maya (mostly Sarah McLachlan, Jewel, Tanya Donelly, and The Wallflowers) because those were the songs she loved to hear over and over when she was 2 (And yes, I probably danced with her by bouncing her in my arms).
“Bizarre Love Triangle” by New Order takes me back to hanging at the now long gone I-Beam in San Francisco and dancing with J to this song. Not only was I in La La Love with her, but it felt really cool to be dancing with J –who at that time was sporting an “Art School Girl” look — and being in a cool part of The City (The Haight). We drank, we danced, we played pool, we hung out, talked, made out, and had a great time with all the other arty-farty kids there. It was just one of those moments where you want to say: “Ahhhhh… I wish I could freeze this night in time.”
And if you think I’m baiting my hook and getting ready to go fishing for some Mix Six selections, you’re right! So, tell me: what songs remind you of an important person in your life? Any good stories to go with the song? 🙂